Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Love it with me Wednesday: Marriage

“First comes love, second comes marriage…”

Hello, Lovely Lauren readers!  My name is Kimberly and you can usually find me HERE. Today, I am lucky to be guest posting for Lauren.  I love Lauren so much, as I am certain that all of you do.  It is because of the Blog-Twitterverse that I “met” the fabulous Lauren!  One day we will meet and it will be glorious!

So…over at my {poor, sad and neglected} blog I used to do a feature called “Love it with me Wednesday”.  I’m not sure if it is our upcoming anniversary {TWO YEARS on October 11th, thanks for asking}, Lar’s upcoming nuptials or Vanessa’s engagement but I have got marriage on the brain.

I LOVE being married.  Maybe it makes me old fashion but I whole-heartedly believe in marriage.  We are still in the Newlywed-ish stage but I have learned so much.  I am no expert but I would love to pass my knowledge on to Lauren, Vanessa and anyone else heading down the aisle.

      *  He isn’t perfect but he is perfect for me.  I talk a lot about how much I love Will. How he is always doing so many sweet things for me.  I think some girls might get the impression that Will is perfect.  That he does no wrong.  Let me tell you a secret.  There is no perfect man.  There is only the man that is perfect for you.  Will is flawed.  He can be such a man sometimes.  I know y’all know what I mean by that statement.  However, there are times that I know he is only man strong enough to deal with my brand of crazy.  He is the only man that would ever really “get” me.  This is what I have to focus on when he is working that last nerve.
      *  You can be quite a handful.  Women by nature, tend to be more high maintenance.  Some more than others. I blame the hormones and the emotional roller coaster that we are stuck on until sometime after menopause.   When Will is “less than perfect” I try to remember that at any given moment my head might spin around and I may or may not shot laser beams from my eyes.  Or I may breakdown in tears for no reason.  Will takes this so well.  He always knows what to say and how to make it better.  So, I think I can ignore his flaws since I’m no cake walk.
      *  Sometimes they just want a pat on the back.  Like when a dog does a trick and you give them a treat and scratch his head.  Men need that too.  Call it ego stroking, if you will. Like the dog…the more praise you give the more “tricks” they will do.  Example: Will does this dishes and I act so excited that I don’t have to do them.  I hug and kiss him and tell him how much it means to me.  He will continue to do things for me because he likes my reaction!

      *  Honesty really is the best policy.  I crack up when I think about our first year.  It’s all honeymooning and…well, ya know. Anyway, if you lived with someone then you may have already be over some of this stuff but Will and I had not lived together before getting married {I’m not knocking anyone that tried it before they bought it…just telling my story}.  In fact, for the last 3 months of our engagement we lived 2,000 miles apart.  This meant that there was a serious adjustment period for both of us.  At first, we were both afraid to say anything about the things that annoyed us.  For example: I tend to forget to turn the oven off after I finish cooking.  I usually notice when I go back to the kitchen with our dishes or for something to drink.  Sometimes Will would be the next person in the kitchen and he would notice the oven and say “Babe, are you done with the oven?”  This drove me CRAZY.  Really? You can’t just turn it off.  You need to point out that I forgot.  I mean…you dinner is sitting right in front of you so I’d say I’m done with the oven.  I just let this frustration build and build until one day…I snapped.  Like yelling and swearing. Bad. Real. Bad.  Poor Will did not see this one coming and was so confused.  If I had just said how I felt then crisis could have been averted.  Sometimes it’s best to just say, “Hey, it pisses me off when you do that.” 

OK.  I think that is enough for now!  Like I said, I’m no expert.  We are still learning about each other and learning how to be a better couple.  I am happier with Will than I have ever been.  I don’t think that a woman needs a man to complete her or that I wouldn’t be happy otherwise.  I’m saying that I was surprised by the love of an amazing man and I just rode the wave…and I’m glad to still be on it.


  1. This is such a great post. I'll keep this in mind when it is my turn to be married :)

  2. You and Bff Will are an amazing couple. Seriously. I love you both SO much!

  3. and hubby Will are super cute. Your marriage is definitely solid, safe and secure, which I hope to have one day too!!